Dating, online dating, Relationships, Superheroes, Uncategorized

I Need a Hero: Deadpool vs Superman

Age 23 – 27: The years following Uni are filled with uncertainty and panic. Everyone around you is married and you still don’t know if you didn’t get a text back from the guy you matched with because what you said was too kinky, or not kinky enough. Fear not, there are two heroes that are made for this period: F-buddy Vs Gym Bunny.

Deadpool

Real name: Wade Wilson

Height: 6 ft 2

Weight: 210 lbs

Age: 27

Build: Perfect

Typical attire: If you haven’t seen the film you won’t know this, but he has no skin, anywhere… As a result he is usually in a skintight bodysuit.

Powers: Superhuman regenerative abilities, so he can heal and regenerate damaged or destroyed limbs.

Day job: Mercenary, soldier, assassin

Temperament: Goofy with a hint of psycho

Intelligence: High school drop out who tends to use violence over logic

Backstory: Wade Wilson had a troubled upbringing, his mother died of cancer and his father was an abusive drunk. After dropping out of high school he carried out a short stint with the military service, only to use his skills as an assassin later on. Even before he gained his powers Wilson was a anti-hero, beating up bad guys for sweet girls and money.

Deadpool is the cocky guy that you encounter at a bar, he’d insult you, tell you he’s met rocks more interesting than you and make you slap him in the face. Yet, somehow, you’d still end up going home with him, or more realistically, down a back alleyway. You’d get swept up in the drama, his ‘no fucks given’ attitude and wicked sense of humour is infectious. This is the guy you get drunk and have freaky weird sex with, he is the perfect bootycall and possibly riddled with STI’s – so play safe.

Your romance (if you can call it that) would be short lived and possibly end with you doing one of two things: trying desperately to turn your hook ups into day dates (sneaky, seeing him broad daylight won’t make it any less of a situationship) OR you’d naturally drift apart. Him to the next adrenaline fused fight and crazy hot girl and you to a slightly more PG partner.

 

Superman

Real name: Clark Kent

Height: 6ft 3

Weight: 235lbs

Age: 27 

Build: Broad shouldered, tall and toned

Typical attire: Slim fit khakis, thick rimmed Ray Ban reading glasses and perfectly coiffed hair

Powers: Super-everything:

  • Superhuman strength
  • Superhuman speed
  • Superhuman vision (including X-ray, microscopic, telescopic, and infrared)
  • Superhuman hearing
  • Invulnerability
  • Heat vision
  • Flight
  • Super breath (also freeze breath)

Day job: Journalist

Temperament: Super-sweet

Intelligence: Surely the geek chic glasses are an indication…

Backstory:

So, technically, Clark Kent is an alien… I too am having visions of face huggers running across the floor but he’s not that kind of alien. Born on the planet Krypton, he was rocketed to earth in a bid to save his life when his home was destroyed, he was found and adopted by a farmer and his wife in Kansas where he grew up.

Being raised in such a humble setting Kent was a quiet boy, always helping on the farm and did his homework on time, he would have been the model son. Knowing what he was capable of and where he came from he would have worked doubly hard to go unnoticed, let’s be honest, you wouldn’t look twice at a 6ft 3 stud with green eyes and dark hair. Sounds like an absolute beast.

Compared to Deadpool, I imagine you’d meet a bespectacled Clark Kent under less seedy circumstances, maybe in a library researching his next article or in Waitrose picking a pack of quinoa. After exchanging a few shy glances, he’d take a few uncertain steps in your direction, remember that he is responsible for saving all of mankind, and quickly retreat. So inevitably, being the 21st century forward-thinking woman you are, you instigate conversation. He’d laugh at your bad avocado joke (guacward) and you’d suggest continuing your scintillating salad chat over a coffee, the next few hours would be filled with cute conversation where you’d laugh too hard and use the opportunity to not-so-slyly touch his arms. Regardless of the clear attraction Kent would not have it in him to pursue a long-term relationship, his strong moral compass would take over and reason would lead him away from a happily ever after and back to planet Krypton.

Even if everyone around is married and has 2.5 children by the time they are 27 it doesn’t mean you have to be too. These guys are either too damaged or too busy saving lives to think about the prospect of a family right now so they are perfect for that ‘I don’t really know what I’m doing’ phase. Neither one of them float my boat, Superman is just too… Clean. I love a good looking man as much as the next woman, but he’s too pretty. Whereas Deadpool is just too… Dirty. Physically, he’s pretty special, and yes, I can look past the lack of skin, but back alleys aren’t really my thing.

Captain America and Thor take centre stage next time (I hope you’re all as excited as I am).

S x

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Blogging, Dating, Spider-man, Superheroes, Uncategorized, Wolverine

I Need a Hero!

Work is much more interesting when you get along with your colleagues, you share anecdotes about your weekend, exchange recipes for healthy living and debate who would be better in a relationship, Captain America or Thor. One Tuesday morning I found myself seriously struggling with this decision, my colleague and I came to the conclusion that it’s more about where you are in your life than who you fancy (both of them, I fancy both of them).

“I Need a Hero” is a series of posts dedicated to the various stages in your life, from your Uni years to the successful career-oriented woman. I will attempt to find the right superheros for each phase and present you with my idea of what a relationship with them would look like, you will be given their dating stats and a brief summary of how you’d meet. Almost like a battle of the fittest, only it has little to do with actual fitness…

*Disclaimer: I am not a superhero/Marvel/ Justice League/Avengers expert, I am merely a woman who enjoys action filled films with men in tight outfits. If my “facts” are incorrect I accept any criticism or correction. Enjoy!

Early 20’s/ Uni years: You could be in full-time education or working  a 9-5, chances are, you go out every weekend and cry about boys just as much as any 20 year old. Being away from the social stigmas created in school your idea of what is attractive may change, (drastically) you may even find yourself on either end of a very strange spectrum: Geeky Boy Vs Dad Complex. Hear me out, going out with what was considered a “geek” was frowned upon in school and sadly you may have cared too much what other people thought, same can be said about dating someone considerably older. Now, in the judgement free period of your 20’s you can do what you like with who you like.

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Who even writes a report in this position??

Based on the above information, I felt that Spider-man and Wolverine were the best contenders.

Spider-man 

Real name: Peter Parker

Height: 5 ft 10

Weight: 11 st 7

Age: for the purpose of this post 21

Build: slim/athletic (think gymnast).

Typical attire: slim jeans, a graphic tee with an open checked shirt, rolled up at the sleeves, a pair of converse and a pair of glasses.

Powers: superhuman strength and reflexes, able to lift more than 12 tonnes, all of his senses are incredibly heightened, makes his own super strong webs.

Day job: Photographer.

Temperament: mild-mannered, sweet, can be playful when he is comfortable with you, but if you’re going by the films he’s far cheekier when he’s not played by Toby McGuire.

Intelligence: academically gifted.

Backstory: Orphaned at a young age Peter Parker was raised by his elderly aunt and uncle, he was clumsy and the epitome of geek. His bad eyesight and shyness meant he was considered the bottom of the high school food chain. On a school trip one day he was bitten by a radioactive spider, hence his spider-like abilities, he soon discovered he could see and became hot overnight (because taking your glasses off automatically makes you hot?!). Being the intelligent young man he is, he didn’t shed his shy boy demeanor overnight, rather he kept his usual appearance up to mask his heroic activities.

Peter Parker aka Spider-man was the smart boy you sat next to when you were given assigned seating in science. Whether you want to admit it or not at some point you developed a crush on him, his intelligence and shyness drew you in and you scribbled his name in the back of your notebook when you thought no one was watching. You realise you fancy him so you stage a study session before a big exam, when you’re a  little high on red bull and sweets you blurt out that you like him and you share a rather cute, slightly awkward, first kiss.

All soft and sweet, Spider-man looks at you like you are the only girl in the world, he buys you milkshakes when you are sad and sends you messages riddled with emojis. He will teach you things that seem trivial to most, but looking at his excited face while he explains ionising radiation makes your heart hurt. Possibly the nicest guy you will ever meet (for at least the next three years) alas, either you will outgrow him or he will get overwhelmed with hiding who he is and what he does and you will get hurt. And when I say “hurt” I mean he has to choose between saving you and stopping a giant building from falling and killing hundreds of other people, so you die and he’s heartbroken for the rest of his life.

Wolverine

Real name: James Howlett AKA Logan

Height:5 ft 3 – According to the comic, but Hugh Jackman is 6 ft 1.

Weight: 14 st

Age: over a century old but looks like he’s in his late 30’s.

Build: stocky, yet lean and incredibly toned for a man his age.

Typical attire: bootcut jeans, heavy steel-cap boots, a white vest and a leather jacket.

Powers: natural healing powers, six retractable claws (three in each hand), enhanced agility and reflexes.

Day job: Lumberjack.

Temperament: hot tempered (don’t piss him off), a man’s man and very hard to read.

Intelligence: Over a century old… He’ll know a few things.

Backstory: Wolverine, ever the man of mystery, has several stories about his past but we’ll go with this one for now. A mutant whose abilities became present when his biological father attacked and killed Wolverine’s brother, he in turn killed his father ( I couldn’t make this up!). He went on to enlist in World Wars I and II, later, he becomes part of the CIA before being recruited by Team X, a black ops unit. He is chipped so they can control him mentally and is used for testing for several years. Eventually he breaks free and is pretty mentally damaged, some time later he is reluctantly recruited by the X-Men.

Wife-beaters and excessive drinking are not for everyone but if you’re over the quiet quaintness of boys your age and you’re seeking that father figure who is the furthest thing from fatherly Wolverine is where it’s at. Eternally angry about something (you would be too if your body was pumped full of titanium and your memory was wiped clean) you’d probably be drawn in by his giant motorbike and permanent scowl.

You’d meet at a bar you have no business being in, some greasy perve would try to feel you up and when you say no he’d raise his hand, along comes Wolverine. Afterwards, he’d check you over, ask if you’re OK, give you a shot to calm your nerves and BAM! You’re totally smitten. He has no interest in you, but you don’t care, he’s older and mysterious and he saved your face. You spend the rest of the night following him around like a puppy, hoping he’ll take you on a ride on the back of his bike, smelling the mixture of leather, sweat and beer coming from his jacket. Basically obsessing over a man who doesn’t want you (sound familiar??). I’m sorry to tell you, Wolverine has no interest in a 20 year old, he needs a sassy woman who can hold her own, but you go ahead, hold on to that older man fantasy, just don’t expect this hero to help you fulfill it.

Whoever you find yourself more attracted to, both these romances will be short-lived, while Spider-man is more likely to actually touch you, Wolverine is appealing because, well, he won’t (you know how much you love a challenge). It doesn’t matter who you choose, Spider-man would become the boy you once loved and you’d get bored of chasing Wolverine.

Personally, I’d probably pick Spidey, I feel like once he adjusts to the idea of having a girlfriend he’d be quite funny and I don’t mind someone buying me sweet treats. Whereas, Wolverine and I would clash regularly, what would happen when my period is due and I get moody?? Would we just sit in bed in silence, both scowling at the ceiling? No, thank you!

Next time, we welcome Deadpool and Superman to the mix.

S x

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Quarter Life Crisis – Part Deux

6. It’s OK to not be OK – We all suffer with some form of anxiety. It can be triggered by a multitude of things but the result is the same, we find ourselves struggling to cope with an overwhelming wave of negative emotions. Whilst I am a firm believer in soldiering on I am also an advocate of accepting how you feel and if needs be, wallowing in it. You can never predict the outcome of any given situation and you cannot guarantee that you will walk away feeling completely whole, but the sooner you realize and accept that you are not OK the sooner you can figure out how to address it.

7. Throw away your list – I never had a list. I never had a time frame or a plan, I just kind of drifted into adulthood, kicking and screaming the whole way might I add. But at 25, watching my best friend plan her fairy tale wedding, I had an existential crisis, was I meant to be planning my wedding?? Why had I not figured out where my life is going? When am I going to have kids?? Will Kim Kardashian EVER come clean about her butt?! All life altering questions that I had never given real consideration to began to plague me. Rather than get a checklist going I did the total opposite, I looked at where my peers where in their lives and I asked myself, “Is that what I want right now?”. And sure enough, the answer was no. Don’t get me wrong, one day I want a wedding, chubby little babies and the handsome man that goes with it all, but for now I want to be happy with just me.

Gotta Love a Bit of Josh Hartnett...

Gotta Love a Bit of Josh Hartnett…

8. Go with your gut – This is pretty self explanatory, but over time, as you make your own decisions (mistakes) you quickly learn what does and doesn’t work for you. So when you find yourself in a situation that feels wrong, in theory, you know when to steer clear of it. In theory… 

9. Stand out from the crowd – The way you dress and present yourself is not the only way to establish your individuality.  As a young teen the stronger voices within your friendship group are the ones that are heard, and they are the ones that decide where you go, who you sit with and what you do. Your thoughts are unique and your opinion is YOURS. Standing your ground, sticking up for what you believe in is what makes you rare. Dare to be different but always remain true to your beliefs and values.

10. Don’t over-pluck your eyebrows – That shit does not grow back! In my awkward teen years (not that I’m any less awkward) I decided it was a good idea to thin my brows, so I plucked and shaved until I looked permanently surprised. And now, when thicker brows are all the rage I have to sit through my friends saying ” I told you so” and trying to find the right shade in a brow pencil. As much as my facial faux pas is stressing me out that is not the point of this lesson, we play with our appearance, waxing, tinting, plumping every part of our bodies (men do it too) but we pay little attention to the aftereffects of these actions. Everyone’s lips might not explode in the Kylie Jenner Lip Challenge, which by the way, can lead to scarring, bruising and possibly even lip indentations but the cringe worthy pics of you looking like a duck with 5 botched lip surgeries will last for eternity, or at least until your mum decides to show them to every boyfriend you ever have.

S x

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Quarter Life Crisis??

Being in the middle of something that feels difficult or overwhelming can make you question yourself and the choices you have made. But once you’re on the other side ask yourself

“was that an actual crisis or was it just par for the course?”

I have asked a few people to share what they have learnt  in their 20’s, this is the first segment in the series, every few weeks there will be another 5 lessons so please feel free to submit your own thoughts or questions and I will be happy to add them to a future post.

1. Alcohol is not your friend (it’s definitely not mine) – I love a well made cocktail, wine makes me crazy and shots make me dance like Beyonce (at least that’s what I think at the time). I am untouchable, sassy and I think I can take anyone, so surely alcohol is my BFF right? Hell. No. I don’t know what happened, but as soon as I hit 25 and, I don’t know 3 months? That was it, I suddenly started having the worst hangovers. I didn’t even get a warning, it was a full on, death. And the worst part? No one sympathizes with you!! My mother? My sisters? My boyfriend??? They all say “this is self inflicted”, but it’s really not! I can’t help it if my friends keep giving me drinks! Saying no is so hard! Lesson – Drink lots of water in between your drinks and eat before you party. If you want to get drunk that’s on you but to avoid feeling like your never gonna be OK again line your stomach and hydrate! And maybe trade your family and partner in for a nicer bunch…

2. Not everyone will like you – You could be the friendliest person in the world with the best intentions, but you can’t win everyone over and that’s OK. I’d like to think I’m quite nice to anyone that I meet, but as I’ve gotten older I have recognized a slight look of indifference when speaking to someone, me being me I question what it is that I’ve done, how have I offended them? I used to spend so much time fretting about why someone didn’t like me, especially if they hadn’t got to know me and vice versa but now I really don’t care. Lesson – If someone has decided they don’t like you you cannot change their mind, and why should you? As long as you have people that care about you and you stay away from those that don’t there will be minimal drama.

3. You can’t be Friends With Benefits and not catch feelings – (I feel like this is a whole post to itself… But I’ll keep this short). For now I speak solely for women, we are not programmed to be physically intimate with someone without the emotional attachments that are naturally formed during sex. No matter how many rules are put in place you cannot control your feelings, and if you really think about it, do you want to? You’ve agreed to this arrangement because you enjoy this persons physique and (maybe even) their personality, so why go through the rigmarole of lying to yourself? It’s like the total opposite of having your cake and eating it, sure lick the icing, hell you can sniff it but don’t you dare go falling head over heels for it! That. Is. Against. The. Rules!!!! You tell someone they can’t have something they are gonna want it even more. I genuinely want to know what the guys out there feel about the FWB arrangement…? Lesson – As there is so much more that can be said on this topic I’ll leave you to ponder on this… For now.

4. You won’t die from heartache

This was so hard to get your head around, it still is. A break up. Will. Not. Kill. You. Yes, it may crush you and yes you may feel like you don’t want to eat, shower, see the light of day ever again. But one day you will get up and that person will not be the first thing on your mind. By the time you are in your mid 20’s you have work, family and friends to occupy you, the emotional trauma of a heartbreak will be devastating in that moment and for a while after, but it is not eternal. Lesson – Surround yourself with people and activities that will keep you busy, but only after you have really given yourself time to mourn the relationship.

5. Trim the fat – Work, school, friends of friends, there are so many ways in which we meet people, or rather collect them, look at your Facebook friend list for example, that is a pretty good indication of who you have met in the last 10 years. Now how many of those people do you actively talk to? At some point you stop trying to accumulate people and you start to invest in the people that are there through the good and bad, as cliched as it sounds. Lesson – Recognizing who means the most to you and nurturing those relationships will lead to a simpler, fuller and happier life.

Remember you can get involved by submitting your own experiences.

To be continued…

S x

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