Blogging, Cheating, Dating, Social Media, Tinder

Tinder Diary – Day 4 through 21

Screenshot_2015-06-08-21-52-17I’d like to say that my silence over the last few weeks is due to the overwhelming amount of dates I’ve been on thanks to my new friend Tinder, however, that’s not quite the case, but there I was asked on a date…

After about 3 weeks I had experienced little to no banter and the odd weird comment like “legggsss!”, there was no spark and nothing to look forward to at the end of the day, until Ben. Ben was one of my very early matches but he hadn’t been online for over a week when we matched. Anyway, Ben had one picture and his statement was “Tall. Blond. Beard” all ticks for me, when he finally reached out he was funny, witty, so interesting and someone I thought I could easily get on with and maybe even like. He usually took a day or two to respond but they were always long messages filled with questions and funny anecdotes, he seemed busy so I didn’t mind, when we were finally talking back and forth he randomly asked to meet up the next day!

Tired of having to log in to Tinder every time I wanted to respond I gave him my number and asked if we could arrange something via What’s App. I didn’t hear back from him until the next morning, he sent a text explaining that he had been trying to download What’s App all morning with no luck, the number he was contacting me on was his work number and I could add him on Snapchat to prove he is in fact real. Not thinking anything of it I responded but I wasn’t feeling very well and asked to postpone, he was very sweet and agreed as long as I wasn’t giving him the shoulder… Anyway, the day finished and I headed home, he told me to get plenty of water and bed rest to which I didn’t respond, I then received another message informing me that his work phone was now off for the rest of the weekend and if I wanted to chat I could reach him on Tinder. 

As soon as I read this last text I deleted Tinder. Why? It is the 21st Century, my father, 65 year old aunt and 11 year old sister all have What’s App! Why are you giving me your work number, even after you yourself told me you could get in trouble for using it?! I asked for your Instagram or FB to prove you were real and you’re gonna offer me Snapchat???! As. If! There is only one thing that I could deduce from all of the above. He’s married or he has a girlfriend, or worse. Both. Seriously, think about it, you can’t download What’s App on your personal phone so why not just text me from it? How can you have Tinder and not What’s App?? And Snapchat? That’s just a way for you to manipulate what I can see of your life, not the numerous Insta pics of you on date nights or FB profile with everyone praising your long standing and happy relationship. 

I could be very wrong, maybe Ben is a 28 year old that is a little behind the times (not enough to not know what Tinder and Snapchat are) and maybe he is very single, maybe he just wanted to keep his private life just that, private. I guess we will never know.

When I started this Tinder Diary it was to try something out of my comfort zone, be a little spontaneous and see what all the fuss was about, I haven’t had the worst experience but I know myself well enough to know that it is just not for me. There is something off putting about the anonymity of using Social Media when dating, sure you can tailor every post and edit every picture before you put it out there for the world to see, but will you look like the Sierra edit on Instagram when you actually meet?  I much prefer the face to face conversations, give me the moments where you say the first thing that comes to your mouth over screenshotting the conversation and asking your friends how to respond any day.

I promised myself that once I had a date from Tinder I would delete it and forget about it, I was asked out, it fell through and I no longer use the app. That doesn’t mean that I don’t have plenty of your stories to share though…

S x

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