6. It’s OK to not be OK – We all suffer with some form of anxiety. It can be triggered by a multitude of things but the result is the same, we find ourselves struggling to cope with an overwhelming wave of negative emotions. Whilst I am a firm believer in soldiering on I am also an advocate of accepting how you feel and if needs be, wallowing in it. You can never predict the outcome of any given situation and you cannot guarantee that you will walk away feeling completely whole, but the sooner you realize and accept that you are not OK the sooner you can figure out how to address it.
7. Throw away your list – I never had a list. I never had a time frame or a plan, I just kind of drifted into adulthood, kicking and screaming the whole way might I add. But at 25, watching my best friend plan her fairy tale wedding, I had an existential crisis, was I meant to be planning my wedding?? Why had I not figured out where my life is going? When am I going to have kids?? Will Kim Kardashian EVER come clean about her butt?! All life altering questions that I had never given real consideration to began to plague me. Rather than get a checklist going I did the total opposite, I looked at where my peers where in their lives and I asked myself, “Is that what I want right now?”. And sure enough, the answer was no. Don’t get me wrong, one day I want a wedding, chubby little babies and the handsome man that goes with it all, but for now I want to be happy with just me.
8. Go with your gut – This is pretty self explanatory, but over time, as you make your own decisions (mistakes) you quickly learn what does and doesn’t work for you. So when you find yourself in a situation that feels wrong, in theory, you know when to steer clear of it. In theory…
9. Stand out from the crowd – The way you dress and present yourself is not the only way to establish your individuality. As a young teen the stronger voices within your friendship group are the ones that are heard, and they are the ones that decide where you go, who you sit with and what you do. Your thoughts are unique and your opinion is YOURS. Standing your ground, sticking up for what you believe in is what makes you rare. Dare to be different but always remain true to your beliefs and values.
10. Don’t over-pluck your eyebrows – That shit does not grow back! In my awkward teen years (not that I’m any less awkward) I decided it was a good idea to thin my brows, so I plucked and shaved until I looked permanently surprised. And now, when thicker brows are all the rage I have to sit through my friends saying ” I told you so” and trying to find the right shade in a brow pencil. As much as my facial faux pas is stressing me out that is not the point of this lesson, we play with our appearance, waxing, tinting, plumping every part of our bodies (men do it too) but we pay little attention to the aftereffects of these actions. Everyone’s lips might not explode in the Kylie Jenner Lip Challenge, which by the way, can lead to scarring, bruising and possibly even lip indentations but the cringe worthy pics of you looking like a duck with 5 botched lip surgeries will last for eternity, or at least until your mum decides to show them to every boyfriend you ever have.